From the Peloton bike to the beaches of Miami, fitness guru and influencer Ally Love (@allymisslove) has mastered the art of balancing the things that are most important to her in life. In anticipation of her wedding, Love took a moment to look toward the future and imparted some of her best advice to us on how to “boss up” and conquer your dreams—and shares some of her favorite hometown spots.
Andrew Haynes and Ally Love on the beach PHOTO BY MIGUEL JUAREZ
As a Miami Native, why is the city so special to you?
I was born and raised in the 305 and I love being from Miami. It’s not only the weather but also the culture and the rhythm of the people plus the fusion of the food that has really impacted and shaped my life. I think one of the things that makes Miami so special to me, especially after moving to New York, is its sense of camaraderie. There’s something that’s uniquely beautiful with Miami being made up of so many different cultures. Obviously I love the beach too! Another element is downtown Miami—I went to school at New World School of the Arts, so Downtown is always special because it was a hybrid of me growing up as a young adult in what would become our financial district.
How are you maintaining mindfulness in anticipation of your wedding?
For Andrew—my fiance—and me, communication is pivotal and it’s a part of our culture that we’re creating in our home. This came prior to the engagement. The way we follow that in terms of being mindful is making sure we have a dialogue of how we’re feeling as much as possible. We want to plan purposefully, and that means using our platform to highlight vendors and creators and artists that are BIPOC and women-owned. As far as what it’s been like planning, it’s been cool. We’ve taken matters into our own hands and have a small team of people that we trust and that we’ve known for many years, so we divide and conquer.
What does your fitness routine look like?
For me, it’s been similar pre- and post-engagement. I’m a Peloton instructor and it’s incredible to do the job that I do. I teach two to three times a week, and I teach barre every other week. In between that, I’m a Peloton member, so I actually engage with the content. I enjoy cycling, going for outdoor audio-only runs, taking yoga in the living room, or sometimes tuning into my own barre classes. Recently, I’ve adopted a lot of strength training classes, so I’ll do strength training before I hop on the bike. I also always encourage folks, when we look at a fitness routine, to make sure that you find a workout you like and eliminate all obstacles to do that workout.
What are your best tips for staying motivated, especially during times of stress?
It’s really important that you figure out what makes you feel good. Most times, you are able to figure out what makes you feel good as it’s happening, so take those opportunities to jot it down. Whatever it is, being able to write those things down in real time when you’re feeling stressed, overwhelmed or just down allows you to be able to revisit this information and potentially exercise some of those options that you’ve created for yourself, so you can avoid leaning into the down or dark moments.
As a bride-to-be, what advice would you impart to others on bossing up?
I can only speak for myself as a bride. I’m not trying to be a bride that makes everything about me. This moment is about highlighting our love and the fact that people are coming out to celebrate us. What we want to do is take the light shined on us and shine it back on our friends and family—to see how much we can support them and make them feel safe and excited. That is the ultimate way to boss up, right? A boss is someone who sets the standard—we’re setting standards on what an impactful wedding looks like. For us, it’s using our platform to highlight vendors, creators, artists that are women-owned and BIPOC. And then we want to make sure that we’re promoting and emphasizing the well-being of our attendees, our friends and family who are going to spend their time with us. And when it comes to setting the tone, we have great energy; we’re positive and optimistic. We don’t want the perfect day—we’re unsubscribing to even talking about that notion. The day is going to happen; we’re going to do our best and our team is going to do their best to plan and make it as thoughtful as possible—and it’s going to be exactly what we need. Setting the standard and establishing a thoughtful tone is ultimately what it means to be a boss.